Whose fault is it anyway?
Danik Frazer,Youthlink Writer

Are you pushing him away? Is he serious about being in a relationship with you? These questions plague many females who are having relationship issues. Truth is, you can never be sure. Though professing undying love for you, he may not even be sure about what he wants. Girls, before you find yourself on the road to 'heartbreakville', protect your emotions. Easier said than done? Yes! But you have to realise that you are in control of your emotions, not anybody else. Armed with this realisation, you may be better able to avoid an emotional landslide.

Protect yourself!

Ensure you have your emotions in check when entering a relationship. Also, be clear about what you want or need, since he may not want the same things as you, and it is very unfair for you to assume that he should know what you want or need. Remember that many boys begin by 'testing the waters', and they do not like when girls get clingy and nagging. Let him understand how you feel about him, and make clear your expectations, but remember to listen to his ideas too. Compromise is the name of the game if and when there is a conflict of ideas.

Boys can be fickle!

Not all boys know what they want. Many are still trying to figure out if they want to wear jeans or shorts to the movies. Nonetheless, it is up to you to reason with him. Find out what his intentions are, and how you will both proceed in the relationship.

They have feelings too!

Do not forget, boys do have feelings and can be emotionally fragile. When you hurt them, you can tell. Try not to be abrasive. Though he will probably never tell you, he hurts and his ego gets bruised too.