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Whose
fault is it anyway?
Danik Frazer,Youthlink Writer
Are
you pushing him away? Is he serious about being
in a relationship with you? These questions plague
many females who are having relationship issues.
Truth is, you can never be sure. Though professing
undying love for you, he may not even be sure
about what he wants. Girls, before you find yourself
on the road to 'heartbreakville', protect your
emotions. Easier said than done? Yes! But you
have to realise that you are in control of your
emotions, not anybody else. Armed with this realisation,
you may be better able to avoid an emotional landslide.
Protect
yourself!
Ensure
you have your emotions in check when entering
a relationship. Also, be clear about what you
want or need, since he may not want the same things
as you, and it is very unfair for you to assume
that he should know what you want or need. Remember
that many boys begin by 'testing the waters',
and they do not like when girls get clingy and
nagging. Let him understand how you feel about
him, and make clear your expectations, but remember
to listen to his ideas too. Compromise is the
name of the game if and when there is a conflict
of ideas.
Boys
can be fickle!
Not
all boys know what they want. Many are still trying
to figure out if they want to wear jeans or shorts
to the movies. Nonetheless, it is up to you to
reason with him. Find out what his intentions
are, and how you will both proceed in the relationship.
They
have feelings too!
Do
not forget, boys do have feelings and can be emotionally
fragile. When you hurt them, you can tell. Try
not to be abrasive. Though he will probably never
tell you, he hurts and his ego gets bruised too.
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