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My
best friend stole my crush
Dear
Counsellor,
I am 14 years old and I have a huge problem
that I hope you can help me with. I met
this guy whom I had a crush on for some
time; we ended up being together. After
about six weeks, everything was going well,
I thought, until I heard he liked my best
friend and my best friend liked him too.
I was really upset so I stopped talking
to him and my best friend.
The
worst part of it is that my best friend
knew we were together. She has since admitted
that my boyfriend told her that he liked
her but that she had no intention of being
with him. I really need your help because
I stopped talking to them both and I'm thinking
I made the wrong choice.
Dear
friend:
First, what a soap opera you have in your
life at age 14. At this stage of your life,
you should be concentrating on your academic
career, as well as your educational future.
Now, for your concerns, I do not think it
is ever good to act on impulse over any
situation. It is always important to get
the facts, think about them, then make an
informed decision. Additionally, you always
give people the benefit of the doubt - innocent
until proven guilty. The truth is that your
boyfriend could have been cheating on you
with your best friend, but it could also
not have really been the case. However,
you, acting on impulse, would not resolve
the situation either way.
Give
her a chance
I
think you should have spoken with your best
friend and given her an opportunity to tell
you what may have happened. Boyfriends are
easy to come by, but best friends are hard
to find and you should not throw yours away
over a guy.
If
you think you have proof he was interested
in your best friend, and that he is trying
to hide it from you, then let him go, he
is not good enough for you. However, you
owe it to your best friend to give her a
chance to defend herself.
Might
I suggest you speak with your best friend
again and allow her to fully explain what
happened. Then you can decide whether or
not you believe her. I hope this works.
-
Counsellor
Write
to Dear Counsellor Rev.Stephen-Claude Hyatt
at Youth Link, The Gleaner Company, 7 North
Street, Kingston; Fax: 922-6223; e-mail
lifestyle@gleanerjm
or dearcounsellor@hotmail.com
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